HeyConfused … you’re not Confused. You've just turned the tables. You’ve flipped the script. The term “bootycall,” in the past, meant that the man was the person in the relationship who was getting all the “benefits” and calling the shots, while the woman was “boo-hooin and beggin.”
Now, some women are flippin’ the script and they are callin' the shots and the men are boo-hooin. I say “SOME” women because women are truly emotional creatures and great sex, almost always, equals an emotional attachment. But, there are a few hardcore women out there who are able to sustain such a relationship and the top ten characteristics of these types of women are as follows:
1. Former “workin’ women (used to hiding their emotions)
2. Horny women who meet fine sexy man with no brains and no money
3. Women in horribly bad marriages who know they are not going to leave and decide that a few moments of pleasure are better than no moments at all
4. Women whose men are not able to satisfy them sexually, but they still love them
5. Women who’ve been used as bootycalls, one too many times, and want revenge
6. Women who’ve given up and feel as if they will never find a man who wants a commitment
7. Women who can spot a playa a mile away … are still sexually attracted to him and decide to go for it
8. Commitment phobics
9. Women with low self-esteem
10. … And … women who are only PRETENDING that they’re cool with these types of relationships. They actually love the heck out of these men and will be “booty calls” or anything else the men want them to be … just to keep them.
Confused, which characteristic fits you? I would say that at least 95% of women in these types of relationships exhibit the characteristics detailed in #10, but, you are also lookin’ like you fit #5.
Sistagirl, if you’re really alright with being in a “reverse bootycall” relationship, just understand that most normal men are not ready to accept it. They want to “call upon” and not be the “callee.”
Confused, you are hardcore if you are truly able to sleep with a man without becoming emotionally attached (I kinda find that hard to believe). I hope that when you finally meet a man who wants to show you what real love feels like, that you can accept what he has to offer. Habits, even bad ones, are hard to break.
…..And to be honest with you, I ain’t really tryin’ to fool with neither of yall! He’s married and mad because his "woman on the side" is using him …. you’re fooling around with his crazy azz while he’s married … and … you’re playin' games while PRETENDING that you're not an emotional wreck because of him.
You stated that you are no stranger to being in relationships such as this. Well, there are some serious inner issues you need to deal with because you are truly a “Dog Lovin’ Sista.” ... visit www.heyrachel.org for definitions, solutions, etc. .... therapy might also be an option.
Confused, check out this age old gran-mamma proverb:
If you think you’ foolin’ the world, you ain’t foolin' nobody but yo-self ...baaaaby!
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